do not move this to spam please as this is a real question and im extremely bothered by it.
K as im writing this i hope no one i know comes to these forums.
I was at a Christmas staff party the other day and being my nice usual self. and i had a lot to drink. so anyways as the night went on (god damn i can barely write this down, im shaking in my boots atm, my nails are gone as iv bitten them off and there are holes in my shirt from biting that) and this friend of mine takes my hat away and im like god damn that is from ireland and it once belonged to my grandpa who is now dead. and i was like give it back. shes like no come dance and i will.... i bloody hate dancing but i wanted it back so i went and started dancing. k btw i am 19, 5'9" 155 pounds, not fat very fit as i play soccer and train muay thai(another inch and a bit with shoes) shes like 6' tall and weighs honest to god like 250 pounds (idk her age but id say a couple years older). i felt no attraction to her at all.
Up to this point im like damn k she just wants to be friends. how could a girl like that want a by comparison tiny guy like myself. so anywayas we are dancing old style, and she kisses me. and i was like GOD FUCKING DAMN, and i grabbed my hat from her head and she smacked it away and like body checked me. and in my head im like god damn everyone can see this bullshit, christ they will think i have a fetish for fat people or something. and then i said "just give me my hat and ill keep dancing" she then allowed me to take it. then i tried to leave but she overpowered me.
then eventually i was able to go sit back down, idk how this was possible but i did somehow, alcohol clouds how it happened. then i was sitting down drinking more, and she sits beside me and kisses me again and at this point i was shittered beyond belief. and so i kissed back sort of. and then everyone saw this including the older ladies who work there. and then eventually i stopped it and she like freaked out and her eyes were watering up and i was like... <_< -_-.... and then she got mad at me for not wanting it, and like at this point i was just ignoring her and saying "i dont know" over and over again haha.
i leave and then i wake up and i dont want to move, i feel sick and still do from the thought and memory of it happening. everyone today made jokes about me being into fat chicks as this has happened before but the girl that time was less overweight, smaller than me and my age. but i wasnt attracted to her at all.
How do i solve this... help please.
and on a side note this girl i am friends with, a year older who is smaller than me and really hot/cute was there. and i said id watch her back, now there is no denying that i think she is hot but i wouldnt do anything with her as she is to me a friend and only a friend. now she was being really drunk and i grabbed her arm to get her to sit down and she didnt move, she looked like a dazed kitten. so i wrapped both my arms around her like a bear hug and then talked to her for a sec (cant recall what i said) then told her to sit down. now behind me was a table full of my mates and they started to call her name to save her from me :/ thinking i was trying to kiss her. so that was embaressing and then i spun her around and made her sit down. but now all my best mates think im being fucking annoying try to get with someone in the 'group' and everyone thinks that i was trying to take advantage of her.
thats an awkward situation. I'd lay off the booze a bit. you said for a sec you actually kissed her back for a moment. she sounded drunk as well to be that over the top. doesn't sound like any girls at work are gonna let this go so i would rule them out entirely as dates. tell this girl who kissed you you are not into her and want to be friends. make sure she is sober and you have an exit in sight. theres 2 ways to go about this. there is the easy way out that is IMO wrong but it decides on what kinda person you are. You can make fat jokes all day with ur friends but they might still not let this down. IMO I'd find me a new girl fast. one outside ur day in/out group. make sure she is skinnier obviously and immediately put to rest that u enjoy plump women. she doesn't even have to be die hard hot at this point. just a cute girl who's into u to hang with u and ur friends/work friends
thanks m8, i laughed very hard at this "and immediately put to rest that u enjoy plump women." hahahahahahhaha
and na i wont go around making fat jokes or anything of the sort. i guess thats the best solution to go out immediately and find a girl who i am actually attracted to.
what would you say about the last paragraph? i was thinking i suppose that the best solution would be to go and talk to her and explain that thats all i was meaning to do.
RE: the last paragraph. You said u only see this attractive girl as a friend. Take my same advice as my orig post. find a new girl fast. this will put to rest any of ur friends doubts about u trying to date a mutual girl friend from the group and also put to rest the fat girl problem.
im happily engaged now and settled but i recall always having 1 or 2 " call girls" available. a girl that u have known a long time but that doesn't hang with ur circle of friends. Basically u and her share an understanding. Shes always a date if you need one and u return the favor.u are strictly friends and both understand that. search ur memory im sure u can come up with a life long friend who is fairly attractive. I was lucky, i grew up next to two girls my age who both become great looking in high school. I had later moved to the other side of city and went to a diff high school as them. they were essentially my call girls for awkward situations that arose (making ex's jealous, last min group dates) and i returned the favor by making their ex's jealous and making sure the guys they were dating were treating them right.
Hope this helps man. just threw out an idea that saved me a few times as it was always fun to piss off ur ex when a car would pull up with chicks from a diff school to drag u away from wherever u saw ur ex
RE: the last paragraph. You said u only see this attractive girl as a friend. Take my same advice as my orig post. find a new girl fast. this will put to rest any of ur friends doubts about u trying to date a mutual girl friend from the group and also put to rest the fat girl problem.
im happily engaged now and settled but i recall always having 1 or 2 " call girls" available. a girl that u have known a long time but that doesn't hang with ur circle of friends. Basically u and her share an understanding. Shes always a date if you need one and u return the favor.u are strictly friends and both understand that. search ur memory im sure u can come up with a life long friend who is fairly attractive. I was lucky, i grew up next to two girls my age who both become great looking in high school. I had later moved to the other side of city and went to a diff high school as them. they were essentially my call girls for awkward situations that arose (making ex's jealous, last min group dates) and i returned the favor by making their ex's jealous and making sure the guys they were dating were treating them right.
Hope this helps man. just threw out an idea that saved me a few times as it was always fun to piss off ur ex when a car would pull up with chicks from a diff school to drag u away from wherever u saw ur ex
thats a really good idea. its really too bad though iv burned a lot of bridges in my past. there is one girl i can think of but she isnt relaxed enough to do something like that. damn im one unlucky sob. ill think on it though i hopefully will be able to pull up someone from the past, hopefully.
1. Stop drinking so much.
2. Figure out who you do or don't want to date. That includes repressed feelings.
3. Ignore everyone who laughs at you in an evil way for this incident.
1. Stop drinking so much.
2. Figure out who you do or don't want to date. That includes repressed feelings.
3. Ignore everyone who laughs at you in an evil way for this incident.
why does everyone say i have repressed or subconscious feelings towards fat women......
"this girl i am friends with, a year older who is smaller than me and really hot/cute was there. and i said id watch her back, now there is no denying that i think she is hot but i wouldnt do anything with her as she is to me a friend and only a friend. now she was being really drunk and i grabbed her arm to get her to sit down and she didnt move, she looked like a dazed kitten."
i have no idea what that means but no doubt it was a joke to insult me
lol
It amazes me how people don't know basic anatomy sometimes. I was just wondering if you were into big girls, if their larger than average areolas appealed to you.
But I'm going to cease my line of questioning anyway.
well Siaynoq how often do people use that word and the definition is as follows: "In anatomy, the term areola, plural areolae, (diminutive of Latin area, "open place") is used to describe any circular area"
just seems like an odd word to use in this situation.
You don't solve it, downing the libations certainly didn't help but sounds like your mental committee is working on you overtime. I've heard it said 1/3rd of the people like you, 1/3rd don't, and a 1/3rd don't care. Just be true to yourself, your real friends will be your friends regardless. As you get older you won't care what others think hardly at all, so enjoy caring while you can.
K as im writing this i hope no one i know comes to these forums.
I was at a Christmas staff party the other day and being my nice usual self. and i had a lot to drink. so anyways as the night went on (god damn i can barely write this down, im shaking in my boots atm, my nails are gone as iv bitten them off and there are holes in my shirt from biting that) and this friend of mine takes my hat away and im like god damn that is from ireland and it once belonged to my grandpa who is now dead. and i was like give it back. shes like no come dance and i will.... i bloody hate dancing but i wanted it back so i went and started dancing. k btw i am 19, 5'9" 155 pounds, not fat very fit as i play soccer and train muay thai(another inch and a bit with shoes) shes like 6' tall and weighs honest to god like 250 pounds (idk her age but id say a couple years older). i felt no attraction to her at all.
Up to this point im like damn k she just wants to be friends. how could a girl like that want a by comparison tiny guy like myself. so anywayas we are dancing old style, and she kisses me. and i was like GOD FUCKING DAMN, and i grabbed my hat from her head and she smacked it away and like body checked me. and in my head im like god damn everyone can see this bullshit, christ they will think i have a fetish for fat people or something. and then i said "just give me my hat and ill keep dancing" she then allowed me to take it. then i tried to leave but she overpowered me.
then eventually i was able to go sit back down, idk how this was possible but i did somehow, alcohol clouds how it happened. then i was sitting down drinking more, and she sits beside me and kisses me again and at this point i was shittered beyond belief. and so i kissed back sort of. and then everyone saw this including the older ladies who work there. and then eventually i stopped it and she like freaked out and her eyes were watering up and i was like... <_< -_-.... and then she got mad at me for not wanting it, and like at this point i was just ignoring her and saying "i dont know" over and over again haha.
i leave and then i wake up and i dont want to move, i feel sick and still do from the thought and memory of it happening. everyone today made jokes about me being into fat chicks as this has happened before but the girl that time was less overweight, smaller than me and my age. but i wasnt attracted to her at all.
How do i solve this... help please.
and on a side note this girl i am friends with, a year older who is smaller than me and really hot/cute was there. and i said id watch her back, now there is no denying that i think she is hot but i wouldnt do anything with her as she is to me a friend and only a friend. now she was being really drunk and i grabbed her arm to get her to sit down and she didnt move, she looked like a dazed kitten. so i wrapped both my arms around her like a bear hug and then talked to her for a sec (cant recall what i said) then told her to sit down. now behind me was a table full of my mates and they started to call her name to save her from me :/ thinking i was trying to kiss her. so that was embaressing and then i spun her around and made her sit down. but now all my best mates think im being fucking annoying try to get with someone in the 'group' and everyone thinks that i was trying to take advantage of her.
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thats an awkward situation. I'd lay off the booze a bit. you said for a sec you actually kissed her back for a moment. she sounded drunk as well to be that over the top. doesn't sound like any girls at work are gonna let this go so i would rule them out entirely as dates. tell this girl who kissed you you are not into her and want to be friends. make sure she is sober and you have an exit in sight. theres 2 ways to go about this. there is the easy way out that is IMO wrong but it decides on what kinda person you are. You can make fat jokes all day with ur friends but they might still not let this down. IMO I'd find me a new girl fast. one outside ur day in/out group. make sure she is skinnier obviously and immediately put to rest that u enjoy plump women. she doesn't even have to be die hard hot at this point. just a cute girl who's into u to hang with u and ur friends/work friends
haha GL
and na i wont go around making fat jokes or anything of the sort. i guess thats the best solution to go out immediately and find a girl who i am actually attracted to.
what would you say about the last paragraph? i was thinking i suppose that the best solution would be to go and talk to her and explain that thats all i was meaning to do.
im happily engaged now and settled but i recall always having 1 or 2 " call girls" available. a girl that u have known a long time but that doesn't hang with ur circle of friends. Basically u and her share an understanding. Shes always a date if you need one and u return the favor.u are strictly friends and both understand that. search ur memory im sure u can come up with a life long friend who is fairly attractive. I was lucky, i grew up next to two girls my age who both become great looking in high school. I had later moved to the other side of city and went to a diff high school as them. they were essentially my call girls for awkward situations that arose (making ex's jealous, last min group dates) and i returned the favor by making their ex's jealous and making sure the guys they were dating were treating them right.
Hope this helps man. just threw out an idea that saved me a few times as it was always fun to piss off ur ex when a car would pull up with chicks from a diff school to drag u away from wherever u saw ur ex
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thats a really good idea. its really too bad though iv burned a lot of bridges in my past. there is one girl i can think of but she isnt relaxed enough to do something like that. damn im one unlucky sob. ill think on it though i hopefully will be able to pull up someone from the past, hopefully.
um.... i dont though <_<
maybe if you jumped out of your head for once >_>
"to the worm in horseradish, the world is horseradish."
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i have no idea what that means but no doubt it was a joke to insult me
lol
"to the worm in horseradish, the world is horseradish."
2. Figure out who you do or don't want to date. That includes repressed feelings.
3. Ignore everyone who laughs at you in an evil way for this incident.
why does everyone say i have repressed or subconscious feelings towards fat women......
"this girl i am friends with, a year older who is smaller than me and really hot/cute was there. and i said id watch her back, now there is no denying that i think she is hot but i wouldnt do anything with her as she is to me a friend and only a friend. now she was being really drunk and i grabbed her arm to get her to sit down and she didnt move, she looked like a dazed kitten."
But I'm going to cease my line of questioning anyway.
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just seems like an odd word to use in this situation.
by the way, congrats on the 8k posts Equinox
Problem solved.