Once again Nekro this is what I'm seeing "This is why I'm right and you're wrong."
you should distance yourself as much as you can from such discussions.
That's the thing, it's no longer a discussion at this point, it's a debate, and I won't take part in that. The whole point of a debate is to prove one side right and the other wrong and when you're dealing with opinion that can't happen. When opinion and life experience is cast aside and you're blatantly told you are wrong, that's not a discussion.
So yes I will distance myself from argumentative debate.
It's kind of sad you ignored the whole post and picked out one line to write about.
I've called you out on points which you were making out to be generally accepted notions- which they were unfortunately not.
I've pointed out the reverse side of the coin where the 18 year old is not the saint at the mercy of the 30 year old. I can't do much more.
I felt it was important to do so, because it was not a private conversation only between me and you and it would be a shame for other people reading this to see only one side of the whole situation.
So much for an argumentative debate.
Peace out.
I respect your opinion, I agree with parts of it, and I didn't ignore your post I just chose not to respond because as I had said I don't like to have conversations about who is right and who is wrong. I know in certain cases the 18 year old can be the one to be greedy. My father after his divorce got with a 25 year old, hes 45, for a while and she used him to pay her bills and move into an apartment and then kicked him out. Neither am I suggesting people only see one side of a discussion, when it is a discussion. This was you downgrading my opinion while up playing yours. Now most people accept this as debate but I find its rude and causes problems between two people more so than anything positive. I have no issue allowing everyone their own opinion, no matter how worthless it may be. It's common courtesy and it's how you should treat other humans on a personal basis since this isn't a debate group. Though that again is my opinion, which is worthless according to popular belief.
Come on there, Dae- you started the whole thing about me being selfish if when 30, I hooked up with chicks 10 years my junior. I know you weren't saying me specifically(at least I hope so) but rather anyone actually getting into such a relationship. If you are so much against these exchanges, you should refrain from making such bold statements. I already told you earlier and I'm going to repeat- it is not about who is right or who is wrong. It is about showing your reasoning behind the idea.
It's not that you were suggesting to people seeing one side of the discussion either because like you said it was a discussion. But for it to continue to be so, I had to reply. People will see and interpret things as they want.
I only proposed another aspect of the situation which not even once (except in your last post) you seem to even partially agree with. You simply resolutely stuck with your original statement, going from 'youth enjoyment' to 'serious relationship', 'learning from relationships' and '30 year olds going out of their way to get 18 year olds' as varying arguments to support your claim. And I answered back, explaining how each and every one of those points in fact did not support your claim because generalizations cannot apply in such cases. Especially where it is impossible for someone to guess at the motive any individual within the couple.
I will nick a beautiful line from you and with which I completely agree- It's common courtesy and it's how you should treat other humans on a personal basis. You meant it in the case of opinions. How about common courtesy and treating humans on a personal basis when making our minds on couples deciding who they'll sleep with or who to have as a life partner?
And you showed none of that through your unyielding position that 30 year old men engaging in a relationship with 18 year old are selfish. They can be, no doubt about it but it's certainly not a rule to go by.
I want to impress upon you that at the end of the day, it remains very much a simple exchange on an even simpler matter over an internet game forum. I cannot see how problems will arise at all and if it does, we can definitely learn from it.
That's the thing, it's no longer a discussion at this point, it's a debate, and I won't take part in that. The whole point of a debate is to prove one side right and the other wrong and when you're dealing with opinion that can't happen. When opinion and life experience is cast aside and you're blatantly told you are wrong, that's not a discussion.
So yes I will distance myself from argumentative debate.
I've called you out on points which you were making out to be generally accepted notions- which they were unfortunately not.
I've pointed out the reverse side of the coin where the 18 year old is not the saint at the mercy of the 30 year old. I can't do much more.
I felt it was important to do so, because it was not a private conversation only between me and you and it would be a shame for other people reading this to see only one side of the whole situation.
So much for an argumentative debate.
Peace out.
I was only responding to the part I quoted.
It's not that you were suggesting to people seeing one side of the discussion either because like you said it was a discussion. But for it to continue to be so, I had to reply. People will see and interpret things as they want.
I only proposed another aspect of the situation which not even once (except in your last post) you seem to even partially agree with. You simply resolutely stuck with your original statement, going from 'youth enjoyment' to 'serious relationship', 'learning from relationships' and '30 year olds going out of their way to get 18 year olds' as varying arguments to support your claim. And I answered back, explaining how each and every one of those points in fact did not support your claim because generalizations cannot apply in such cases. Especially where it is impossible for someone to guess at the motive any individual within the couple.
I will nick a beautiful line from you and with which I completely agree- It's common courtesy and it's how you should treat other humans on a personal basis. You meant it in the case of opinions. How about common courtesy and treating humans on a personal basis when making our minds on couples deciding who they'll sleep with or who to have as a life partner?
And you showed none of that through your unyielding position that 30 year old men engaging in a relationship with 18 year old are selfish. They can be, no doubt about it but it's certainly not a rule to go by.
I want to impress upon you that at the end of the day, it remains very much a simple exchange on an even simpler matter over an internet game forum. I cannot see how problems will arise at all and if it does, we can definitely learn from it.
Most gaps people experience have nothing to do with age, they just happen to correlate with age at times.